Melodic, Thrifty & Chic
  • Fashion Blog
  • Music Blog
  • About Me
  • Contact
  • Press
  • SPONSOR/DONATE
  • SHOP MY CLOSET!

Take A Picture, It'll Last Longer

11/22/2017

10 Comments

 
Picture

I got looked up and down a lot, this day. Hey, I'm in my thirties and I'm wearing shorts. F*cking get over it, guys. I'm self-conscious enough about my gams without the gawks. Take a picture, it'll last longer.

There are so many women who absolutely crush it and on a daily basis. Women younger than me and older and I revere them all. Confidence in one's appearance is a hard thing to come by at any age. Interestingly, I find the stares of disapproval more often than not come from other women (male gaze is a different thing entirely and I'll need a whole new post to tackle that one). Anyway, ladies, rather than look disapprovingly at another woman, due to religious, political, societal views or possible self-esteem issues, why not be a little more accepting? Why project such palpably negative energy?


Picture
Picture

The way that you look at a person, the way that you regard him/her/them can have a major impact on that person, including that person's sense of worth and acceptance. Stop making people feel like they are "less than," because you think you know best. The simple truth of the matter is: you don't.


When you stare at a person, laugh or give dirty looks, you're being selfish. You're making it about you when really you're missing out on an opportunity to embrace someone and to make that person feel good about him/her/themself. It's easy to tear someone down. Harder to take that high road, I guess.
​

Picture
Picture

That being said, I did spot some smirks that most likely came from the print on my shirt. Perhaps, its declaration along with the spikes, the chunky boots, the goggle sunnies and the hair-do, kept everyone around at bay. Hehe. No one dared touch or speak, but their eyes spoke volumes, at any rate. ;)

Picture
Picture
Picture

Overall, I'm pretty disappointed in my city, as far as diversity. I've read that by 2025 or something that the number of visible minorities will grow to 30% of the country's population. That's in my lifetime which is great, but kinda sucks at this particular moment in time. I'm not seeing nearly enough complexity in terms of style and the way people carry themselves. The city is more conservative than I was expecting and it's a real let down. Maybe I'm just not going to the right places, but if the people I see on the train from day to day are any indication, things are not looking too good for the city as a whole. 

Picture

​If this kind of outfit makes people's eyes bug out, then I think either they need to get out more or there needs to be a real push toward bringing more diverse groups to the city. Alternatively, it's possible that the city is more segregated than I realized, in which case, more should be done to integrate those segments of the city and to bring people together. Diversity and complexity need to be the norm, especially in such a large city that prides itself on being a forward-thinking international hub.


Despite the approval or disapproval of the masses, I must say that this outfit made me so happy. I love the colors. I love the textures. I think my legs happen to look rather nice, if I may be so bold. Heh. I'm going to go out on a limb and say that I look pretty f*cking great. I quite enjoy this mix of hard and soft.


Thrifted - Black Fedora, ModCloth Green Studded Cardigan (Sale) & Black Platform Boots 
ModCloth - Black High Waisted Shorts & Diamond Pattern Tights
​c/o CNDirect
- Steampunk Goggle Sunglasses

c/o Sammydress - Black Studded Backpack

Threadless - Floral T-Shirt

♫ Thank you so much for your comments! Though I may not respond to each one, I read and appreciate all of them! ♫

Follow on Bloglovin
10 Comments
Karolina link
11/22/2017 05:13:13 pm

the t-shirt says it all, haha! <3
when it comes to the problem you mentioned, I used to live in rather small town in eastern part of my country, which is considered to be narrow-minded and conservative. I had a friend, who loved 80s glam rock style. He was wearing long bleached hair, skinny jeans, biker jackets and sometimes he borrowed leopard print tops and black eyeshadow from his girlfriend. He was perceived as a local freak, but most of the people knew him and liked him. But when he moved to a bigger city, which should be more tolerant, it turned out to be even worse. He decided to change his image into Elvis Presley look - he cut his air and stopped wearing animal prints :P but what I wanted to say that it is not the size of the city which determines people's attitude but the upbringing in certain environment, I guess... So don't worry, people in there will finally get used to your outstanding look! :D
anyway, I really love this outfit, especially the matchy matchy dots and spikes on tights, sweater and backpack. Also these colors are kind of relaxing.

Reply
Anna
11/25/2017 10:06:23 am

You're so right. I mean, thinking on it now, I feel foolish for having thought that a larger population would mean greater diversity and tolerance. I guess, those characteristics combined with the overall rhetoric attached to this country cause me to have certain expectations. I guess I'm just disappointed. I thought I left all that nonsense behind. =/

Ahh, you noticed the matchy dots, eh? Haha. I wasn't sure if anyone would get the pattern play with the tights and the studs. Of course, you did, though. ;) Thanks! <3

(\__/)
(=‘.’=)

Reply
julie
11/23/2017 04:15:13 pm

Dots for days! I love it. I recently moved to the Midwest from art-centric Santa Fe and I completely understand what you're saying. It would be such a comfort to encounter someone with your style in my current city. I would certainly be staring, but only because I might be too shy to say hello to someone so cool.

Reply
Anna
11/25/2017 10:11:21 am

Yaaaaaas. :PPP <3 Oh yeah? I moved to the Midwest from the South. Lived in the Midwest for a little over 10 years before leaving the country. I totally get how different things must feel for you there, coming from, what I imagine would be, a liberal, creative, open environment.

Haha. Omgosh, thank you. You know, I don't often mind when people look at me. It's just when it lasts for a very uncomfortable amount of time. It always makes me wish I could just disappear or something. :<

Thank you so much for stopping by! <3

(\__/)
(=‘.’=)

Reply
Lisa link
11/26/2017 09:40:34 am

You look super cool! Everything about this outfit is great ^___^

Reply
Anna
11/28/2017 11:25:12 pm

Thanks so much! <3 ^_^ <3

(\__/)
(=‘.’=)

Reply
Dana
11/27/2017 06:51:06 am

That's right Anna, well said!!
Don't let anyone style-shame you or body shame you into feeling less worthy than you know yourself to be.
I love this post because it shows you stand empowered in who you are and hold yourself like the QUEEN you are, yassss!!!

I'm terribly envious that you can even still *wear* shorts!! Go you! All of you!!
xxo

Reply
Anna
11/28/2017 11:25:58 pm

Girl, you already know how I feel about your gams. Haha. If anyone can rock a pair of shorts, it's you! :P <3

(\__/)
(=‘.’=)

Reply
Katya link
11/28/2017 12:02:31 pm

I just so dig this look, specially your hair do and hat. I have that a lot, weir people stares. It makes me uncomfortable and conscious.

<a href="http://stylesprinter.com/">StyleSprinter Blog by Katya Bychkova</a>

Reply
Anna
11/28/2017 11:27:24 pm

Rad! Thanks, Katya! <3 Yeah, it's really those prolonged, uninterrupted gazes that really get to me. After awhile, it gets stalkery. Heh.

(\__/)
(=‘.’=)

Reply

Your comment will be posted after it is approved.


Leave a Reply.





    (\__/)
    (=‘.’=)
    


    Hi! I'm Anna <3

    I'm fond of artistic fashion, esoteric music, retro games (the older the platform, the better), delectable noms, good libations, my Maine Coon, Bonaparte, and my Tabby, Winsome.

    Also, I attended university in Hyogo Prefecture and I am proficient in Japanese.


    もし、あなたは日本語が話せる、あたしに日本語で話て下さい!練習が必要だ!*^_^*
    



    (\__/)
    (=‘.’=)


    FTC DISCLOSURE:

    I may receive a small commission for purchases from shop links and banners displayed on my blog. 
    

    COPYRIGHT NOTICE:

    Text, graphics, and HTML code on this site are protected by U.S. and international copyright laws, and may not be copied, reprinted, published, translated, hosted, or otherwise distributed by any means without permission!


    © 2012 - 2021 melodicthriftychic.com
    


    Special Thanks To My Past Sponsors!
    ​

    Choies

    Persunmall

    Sammydress

    Barter's Closet

    Iconemesis

    Oasap

    SammyIcon

    TrendyFine

    Fiery Finish Vintage

    Sock It To Me

    Karina Dresses


    Foxtales Boutique

    Dressin.com

    Happiness Boutique

    Yoins

    Fashion Mia

    Newchic

    CNDirect

    Octer

    Sunglass.LA

    Tobi


    My Cure For Insomnia

    
    Sweet Tweets

    Tweets by @annab34r

    Stalker Paradise

    Follow on Bloglovin
    Follow on Bloglovin


    Picture

    Picture
    Picture
    Picture
    Picture


    OMFG, Bro! Blog Button! Use It! <3


    These Shops
    Kick Ass <3





    For every pair sold, a pair is distributed to someone in need. So far, 1 million pairs of glasses have been distributed and counting!

    My Sordid Past

    November 2019
    August 2018
    July 2018
    June 2018
    May 2018
    April 2018
    March 2018
    February 2018
    January 2018
    December 2017
    November 2017
    October 2017
    September 2017
    May 2017
    April 2017
    March 2017
    February 2017
    January 2017
    December 2016
    November 2016
    October 2016
    September 2016
    August 2016
    July 2016
    June 2016
    May 2016
    April 2016
    March 2016
    February 2016
    January 2016
    December 2015
    November 2015
    October 2015
    September 2015
    August 2015
    July 2015
    June 2015
    May 2015
    April 2015
    March 2015
    February 2015
    January 2015
    December 2014
    November 2014
    October 2014
    September 2014
    August 2014
    July 2014
    June 2014
    May 2014
    April 2014
    March 2014
    February 2014
    January 2014
    December 2013
    November 2013
    October 2013
    September 2013
    August 2013
    July 2013
    June 2013
    May 2013
    April 2013
    March 2013
    February 2013
    January 2013
    December 2012
    November 2012
    October 2012
    September 2012
    August 2012

    Tag! You're It!

    All
    A Trip Down Memory Lane
    Autumn Style
    Awesome T Shirts
    Blogger Spotlight Series
    Cotton Road To The Runway Contest Is A Sham
    Featured Sale Items
    Giveaways
    On Line Shopping Reviews
    Post Apocalyptic And Futuristic
    Press Clippings
    Random Music
    Special Offers And Coupons
    Spring Style
    Style Advice
    Style Challenges
    Summer Style
    Vintage Treasures
    Wanderlust
    Winter Style
    Wish Lists

Powered by Create your own unique website with customizable templates.